Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about something you have always wanted to do? Your dream was absolutely amazing, and the world was round and perfect again?
Bam, you got woken from your daydream, and life goes on just the way it was before.
For me, daydreaming is a significant force when wanting to achieve something that feels out of reach.
Either because timing is impossible, money is an issue, too many things are in the way of accomplishing this dream, or simply because it just feels unreachable.
It doesn’t matter how much money one makes, how perfect of a life someone might be living, we all daydream, no matter who we are.
The richest of people might daydream of the simplest of things, and they might feel it is unreachable to them. The poorest of people might be dreaming of the most distant life they may want to live, to make their life as perfect as the rich people’s. We all do it, sometimes it could be something much simpler like returning to school and getting a higher degree. Or achieving certain health goals that have weighed us down in our work and family life.
Daydream of the things we feel we can’t reach is so much easier than achieving them, right?
But truth to be told. YOU CAN REACH ANYTHING YOU WANT TO REACH!
YOU just need to take this dream and nail it down.
How, you are asking?
- Make a commitment to yourself.
Making commitments has become the antique of self-care. We forget it exists; we treat it as the missing link to our happiness.
Let me put it this way. Who says that if there is something in life that you truly want, that you CAN NOT achieve it?
Maybe ask yourself this, if I can’t achieve what I am dreaming of and wish for so desperately. Is it actually my dream, is it something I really want to achieve?
Then think back to the times when you really wanted something as a kid. How much work did you put into your parents until you got what you wanted? Or how hard did you study because you were DETERMINED you wanted that A in English?
So, if you were able to accomplish these so very important wishes/dreams of yours when you were younger, why could you not achieve them now?
As a kid, I was determined to go places. Others didn’t believe me. When I said I am going to the USA someday, no one took me seriously. That was over thirty years ago. I have been in the states for 30 years.
Lots has changed since. I became a mother of 4, started my life over at the age of 38 as a single mother and full-time business owner. So, much has changed since I was a teenager, my focus shifted away from me but towards the people, I love so incredibly much. I focused all the rest of the time I had on my work. I became the number one daydreamer.
My dreams became unreachable, so far away, I couldn’t even see them happening years down the road. I had blinders on like horses do sometimes so they don’t get distracted from what’s going on next to them, so they can focus only on what’s in front of them. I became the horse. I could only see what was directly in front of me and dream about the unachievable.
I partially missed out on life.
10 years ago, after my divorce, after I became sick from food sensitivities, something happened. I woke up one morning and said, “fuck it, it’s time to commit to me”. I deserve to live an amazing life. My dreamy life includes all my kids, I needed to reach my dreams not just for me as my dreams but for them as well. I decided that nothing will ever be unreachable again.
I didn’t want to feel like a victim of divorce or be this daydreamer that never gets anywhere. My dreams had everyone and everything in them that presently were in my life. So, how the hell could I not commit to this? How could I not do every little bit it takes to get where I wanted to go.
I returned to school, switched majors a few times until I figured out what I wanted to do when I grew up. I found the love of my life, closed my old business, and started a new one. I am getting married and moving across the country. I have traveled more in the last 4 years then I have my whole life.
It has been a long hard road, I wanted to give up often. It has taken so much work, working 7 days a week sometimes three different jobs. It has taken lots of sweat and tears. The reason why I am telling you this is because achieving your dreams is not easy. It takes a lot of commitments to you and your dream, but if this is truly your dream, then it’s so worth all the effort, all the falling and failing and getting back up.
- What has kept me going and working hard to get to where I want to go?
The end result, my pretty picture I painted for myself with the end goal in mind. I made a vision board and hung it next to my bed so I can look at it every morning when I wake up and every night before I go to sleep. It reminds me that in the end all of this will be worth the effort. It reminds me that there is a reason why I kept daydreaming about my goals and finally decided to commit to myself and my future.
Yes, it has taken me a long time and I am still not at the end but I’m only a quarter inch away from truly achieving my dream.
You see, when I talk about dreams/ goals they are not going to come to you unless you will go get them for yourself. That’s just not how things work.
That’s why I was asking you at the beginning of this blog, “if you can’t achieve what you are dreaming of but wish for so desperately. Is it actually your dream, is it something you really want to achieve”? Is it something you want to donate lots of sweat and tears to?
You see, I have had dreams like these as well. I thought I really wanted something but didn’t do anything about it. Then I felt so disappointed that my dreams/goals didn’t come true. It wasn’t until later where I came to the conclusion that those dreams/goals were not really something I truly wanted.
Did I really want to be that hairdresser that works for JOICO doing hair shows with them and travel all over the place? Yes, I really wanted that, but not really. That meant I would spend the days I had with my kids away from my kids, and my kids were truly more my dreams then fame on stage with JOICO. I actually got the job. After I applied for it, I presented myself for a whole weekend and they picked me! A dream come true, but was it? As soon as it came to the first travel session I bailed, I couldn’t leave my kids behind. Are you kidding me (I actually was sick with Lymes disease and couldn’t go, what a perfect way out of it)? It still is definitely a dream of mine, but one that will just stay a dream.
We are talking about the real dreams, the ones you can feel in your heart and in your gut. The ones that might give you your first house for you and your family. Think about the steps you need to take to qualify for that first mortgage. Maybe it’s your health, think about the steps you need to take to achieve your health goals so you don’t have to suffer anymore and spend time with you kids again without the pain or whatever it might be?
So, my suggestion to you for today, if you are someone like me and have become a daydreamer and want to actually achieve your dream/goal, this is what I suggest to you today:
- Ask yourself daily, if what you’re doing today is getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow, next week, next month a year or even ten years from now.
No matter what it takes, how long it takes, baby steps or giant steps, as long as it gets you to where you truly want to be, you are on the right track.
Dreams/goals take time, you may dream of them overnight but actually achieving them will take time and effort, maybe some failing along the way, but as long as you keep getting up and pushing forward, I promise you, you will achieve them.
Anything is possible, you just need to decide if that’s truly what you want, then go for it.
Thanks so much for stopping by, I hope you enjoyed this blog. If so keep an eye out for next weeks.
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