Starting over, the good, the bad, and time for one more!
Starting over, the good, the bad, and time for one more!
How many times in life have you started over, hit that reset button? I would say that it feels like I have started over a million times in life. The major start overs though I can count on one hand, three to be exact:
- When I came to the states at the age of 19 as an Au-Pair never thinking I would still be here thirty years later.
- Divorcing my husband after a 17-year-old marriage
- Not only changing my diet but my lifestyle after I finally committed to myself for better health and wellbeing after living in denial for a few years.
I must admit these were the hardest times of my adult life, but also the ones that have taught me the absolute most and helped me to become who I am today.
Not everyone has the need or urge to start over in life, but for some of us, it might be unavoidable. Starting over could be a setback such as a divorce or having to conquer a health issue that brings many lifechanging events with it. It could also be something exciting, something we always wanted to do, but haven’t had the chance to do until now.
As a kid I always wanted to come to states, listening to American music and falling in love with my favorite musicians, staring at my posters in my room from Prince to U2, Depeche Mode, Duran Duran (even though they are from England, I still was a big fan) Aerosmith and yes so many cute boys, lol. Life was a big dream back then, in which no one ever took me seriously when I voiced my plan to the world.
Arriving here in 1990, was an was such a crazy experience, not knowing where I was going to land and not speaking a word of English being an au-pair for a German family. My grocery store runs consisted of dictionary adventures, trying to find the items I needed on the shelves. This was the beginning of a life I never thought possible. Having lived in a small city, coming to country and running into a bear within the first month after my arrival, needless to say, my reaction was like “where in the world did, I land, and why are there bears crossing the road”? Missing my friends and family was hard though, without smartphones, zoom meetings or FaceTime SNAIL MAIL became my best friend. Luckily It only went uphill from there, lol.
Divorcing my husband after 17 years of a very stressful marriage, while being blessed with four of the best kids, starting over was quite challenging, especially on the days my ex had the kids. Those were the days I would work 12-hour days at my salon, going home was too quiet and lonely. The next few years were really tough but incredibly successful in finding myself again. The Andi that was lost and pretending to be someone she wasn’t, unable to express my true self as a person, while loving motherhood beyond my wildest dreams. My children were the greatest blessings of my marriage and have always been my greatest motivation and inspiration. They are my greatest strength givers even when they drive me crazy, lol. They are the reason why I am here today, doing the things I am doing and moving forward in life.
Stress, unhealthy eating habits, and not taking care of myself made me sicker than I could have ever imagined. Some people might say that food sensitives aren’t a big deal. I am here to tell you they can make you sicker than anything I could have ever imagined in my wildest dreams.
24-7 nausea, stomach cramps, diarrhea, unable to eat without feeling horrible, heart palpitations, anxiety, brain fog…. The list goes on. My days were miserable. It is exhausting when you never feel well. My performance as a business owner, mother and human being went way down. Simple tasks were incredibly horrible and difficult tasks to accomplish.
Once I committed to myself and grabbed the bull by the horns, my life became a complete overhaul. Talk about starting over, damn. Today I am symptom-free for over two years, coaching others walking in the same shoes I used to.
These were my three major phases in life where starting over was difficult but also became great teachings to me. I am about to enter my fourth start over, as I am getting remarried to the love of my life, my soul mate in two weeks, and then moving to Colorado in August for a new beginning as Mrs. Clark. With my youngest child in College and the other three starting or continuing their journey in life, finding new and exciting places to live, being a parent and new homeowner. My kids have grown into amazing people and I couldn’t be prouder of each one of them. This is why I am taking this time right now as for it is either now or never, to experience new adventures in my life. Yes, it is scary, and uncertainty comes with this move, but it is also exciting, motivational and exhilarating.
What has kept me on track when I had/chose to start over?
- Focusing on the important stuff, for me it’s been my kids and my life goals.
- Get your ducks in a row by making a plan. I am coming to the end of my 10-year plan, once I am moving. I am not saying things are happening overnight here, the best of plans can take much time, which brings me to number 3
- Don’t lose focus, stay on track by doing something every day, with the intention of reaching your goal in the future, this could be as simple as doing your homework assignment for the degree you want to achieve, that will bring you the job and life you crave so much.
- Never give up. Giving up can be much easier than continuing at times. I get it. I wanted to give up so many times, I can’t even count them on both hands. Giving up brings feelings that we don’t need in life such as disappointments, so don’t, don’t ever give up on your dreams, goals, plans, life, and yourself.
- Keep pushing forward, and if you fall on the way, get yourself back up, know that it is ok to fall.
Starting over is never easy, at least it hasn’t been in my book. It sure has been worth it though every time. I think that once I made up my mind and committed to my decision, I was determined to follow through even on the days I didn’t want to.
Today I would love to hear from you, what are your opinions on starting over and have you started over at some point in your life?
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