You know when you are looking for that “why”? That why we do the things we do, kind of why? When I was in the process of furthering my education, I truly had to figure out my why. I needed to decide what it was that I wanted to do for the rest of my life. Without knowing your why there is no reason behind the things you are doing. I have been a hairdresser for the past thirty years, a salon owner for the past eleven, on top of being a mother to four children. The reason I became a hairdresser was because it felt like something fun to do at the time. I was not thinking about how this kind of career will affect me and my family for the years to come. I love being a hairdresser, and I think I’m quite good at it too. Being a hairdresser has taught me people skills, communication skills and how to run a small business successfully.
With life playing itself out and obstacles continuously appearing on my path, I decided that I needed to do something for myself. I’ve always loved food, good nutritious food, I grew up believing that we become the food we put in our bodies. This was so true. My whole lifestyle changed coming to the states. With that my food consumption, especially with an extremely picky husband back then, changed. Cooking a nutritious meal had become quite a challenge for me. I believe that this was one of many reasons why I became ill ten years ago and developed my gluten sensitivity amongst other things.
After being at my lowest point in life I made the decision to go back to school but did not make the actual move towards school for about another five years. Why it took me this long I am not quite sure, I am thinking maybe that I was scared of failing, not being able to handle the workload, not being able to afford it, not being able to spend enough time with my children, especially now that I was divorced and only had them part-time. This honestly was one of the most difficult times I ever had to go through. I would do just about anything to see my children more.
Once I took the first steps towards going back to college I felt amazing, almost like a superhero, I was so extremely excited to learn new things and I made a promise to myself that I would ace my classes, no exceptions. Why? Well, let me tell you this. I knew I had to better my life in a way that that would allow me to be better for my children. I could be around for my children for a very long time, even past the times once everyone moved out, went to college, created their own families. I want to be that mother that will fly across the world to be with her kids and grandkids whenever they need me. My children are my why. I understood that if I didn’t take care of myself and get better, make myself happy, and invest time in something that will help me accomplish my why, I would not be able to do these things.
I find it is so important as individuals, men and women, to find things and partners in your life that will support your needs in making your life whole. How can we live and care for others, if we can’t even live or care for ourselves? I figured this out so much later in life than I could have. On the other hand, it’s totally ok, because my mistakes, my ups and downs have helped me and shaped me into the person I am today, and I must admit I love being 48. If the obstacles that came into my life would not have come I would have never become a health coach, and possibly never learned to love myself for whom I am, find my better half and live life to the absolute fullest. My children are my why, without them I could have never done it.